My Wife Walked Out 6

[RSG]

I think we've had conversations about communication before and not seen eye to eye, but I have to say that from over here, I don't think there was anything in the exchange that warranted the level of anger you seem to feel.

Extracting preschoolers from play dates often takes longer than you think, and when you are already running late and trying to text, it's not unusual to be terse, which can come off as bossy.

And expecting to be thanked for expressing best wishes for a surgery? It just feels like you are letting the larger situation cloud your perspective on exchanges that are rather benign.

You might be right about the latter, I could see that.

However, re the former it isn't a communication issue anymore. It's a nasty habit she's developed. She expects me to do what she wants when she wants it where she wants it, without any explanation. I used to buckle and just take it, thinking it would make the relationship better. I became a doormat. She would treat me like one of her diaper wearing preschoolers. The playdate was immaterial. It was taking for granted 5:30 was ok with me because she said so (she didn't indicate it was a play date until I asked), then agreeing to 5:15 but going back to her original time because she decided THEN telling me I had to wait longer because she said so. No explanation. I know if I did that, she would be livid. She only thinks her time is important. Just like the way she'll talk about "happiness" but doesn't think that my definition of the word might be different.

Also, I tried to call her minutes after she texted for an explanation. Refused to answer, when she keeps her phone in her hands at all times. I'm not sitting around at her beckon call. I had to get home, feed the dog and take him out not sit around in the church parking lot until at least 5:45 and sit in at least 15 more mins of traffic to get home because she decided it's what she wanted to do. Have a problem? Think you're going to be late? Call. Make an effort. Be respectful. Don't just tell me what to do and expect me to take it.