My Wife Walked Out 6

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Thanks Hawker and LT. I do get little down moments. Ginger, that's an interesting observation. Why can't there be a happy medium? Lol


Well, a VERY interesting afternoon. Just before I leave work she asks "Does 5:30 work for you?" Long story short, she got S together with some other kid. We agreed for her to drop him off at 5:15. Then AGAIN asks for 5:30, and though annoyed I say fine. I get to the church just before 5 and decide to wait, because going home THEN going back would just be stupid. At around 5:20, she texts and says "5:45. Sorry." WTF? Sorry, but I will NO LONGER accept being told what to do, when to do it, where to go.

I told her I was going home and she could drop him there. She kept asking if I were still at the church and I kept telling her you can drop him at home. I was SO pissed off. Inconsiderate, taking advantage, telling me what to do. I WILL NOT accept this nor will I forgive it. It will change or I will go. She finally got him home at 6:15. Luckily I got most of my yelling out in the car, and when she drove up I was still angry but it was tailing off. She wanted to chat, but I told her she needs to communicate better and she left.

After I cooled down, I text her and said "These are better scheduled for Friday. He doesn't need to be out so late on a school day, and I would prefer you communicate better." Her: "He wasn't out late. I could say the same about your therapy, he's out until 7 so stop. So sorry you were inconvenienced" noting it was the first time and something he badly needs. I said "I understand he needs socialization, but please communicate better. Also, it feels like you're telling me what's happening, what to do, when to do it, etc rather than asking. It really bothers me."

She sent me a big, sassy OK. I said thanks, and noted I needed some time to cool down because I was in no condition to have a conversation. I asked if she had any info from his day, she said only that he didn't nap but said her surgery is the 23rd and pre-op is next Monday so she won't be at the evaluation. I said "I wish you could be there to support him during the evaluation, but can't argue with that. I'll take care of him no worries." We talked about it a little, and I mentioned "S and I will be thinking of you next week, hoping everything goes smoothly." She just says it's fine, and that she might keep him next TH and take him to school. I say that might be good for both of you. Are you really not too worried about it? "I'm going to be fine, doing what I need to." "OK, just asking don't want to bring up undue stress. I'm glad you went to the Dr. when you did." "Thanks have a good evening." "You too."


I did a good job calming down and not telling her what I REALLY was thinking. I can forgive and work through her dumpster diving for men, even how she refused to parent for months. I will NOT tolerate being ordered around any longer, and if she can't fix this or at least commit to working on it, I cannot do anything but leave. They are my biggest issues with her, crap that started up when she started this mess.

I don't like how she can't even say thanks for my giving positive vibes about her surgery. In this particular instance, she might not have been swooned by it given we had argued but even when we've had good conversations she doesn't show thanks for my concern. LT noted something interesting in his thread that, when his W starts to show cracks she withdraws. I think mine might be withdrawing in this instance, or it's possible she just doesn't care.

This is the angriest I've been in months, but I showed very little and waited until I had calmed down before I contacted her and let her know what my issue was. I think what really confuses me is that she doesn't seem to realize what she's done or how she talks to me. It's very frustrating.

What an end to the day!!