Albac - 7 months in. Life goes on.

[mulesqb]

Gump,

I'd i had the answer to that question I would feel much better. The thing is when you share a child can you ever really severe the connection? I have to deal with her forever. I have already cut back contact to the bare minimum that is absoloutely necessary. Although my W wants to spend time as a "family" I will
Not do it

Albac - I have a fiancee that has a very respectful relationship with her ex. I get along very well with him as he is a great father now. And believe me, he was a piece of garbage when they fell apart. But he got his act together. My relationship with my ex has improved over the years and I have forgiven her (thanks to an old poster named Bworl)but we will never be close again. But we are able to co parent. I have full custody and decision making so she respects what I decide. I also listen to her opinion and have used it when I thought it was better than mine. Time helped that situation dramatically.

Life does go on. And when it does time does soften things. I was fortunate and met someone who is such a better fit for me. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. And she has custody of her 3 boys. In a way I truly believe my XW is happy for me that I found that.

My point is take it one day at a time. You want to sever the connection right now because it is fresh. But as Bworl taught me, at some point you'll loosen the grip you want to put around her throat. If not for you, then for your D2 as she gets older.

And of course you won't spend "family" time but there will be times when you have to be "parents" together...proms, graduations, religious events...trust me you can handle it.

Working on GAL right now. That is extremely important. Tough times don't last. Tough men do>

Strength and Honor.

Mules