Albac - 7 months in. Life goes on.

[mulesqb]

Albac, I am thinking of your situation.

I think about what is the right thing for you to do -- regardless of where your WW is at. Whether she's 100% on-board to reconcile, whether she's running away from you at 100mph... what is the right thing for you to do as a man and as a father. The answer I arrive at is that you stand strong, you stand tall, on principles.

But then I wonder at which point do you take your head out of the clouds, and see reality? At which point do you concede that your W has long-term traits and issues that will NEVER get resolved in your lifetime, she will always behave in an unhealthy way? At which point do you say it's better to sever your connection, and protect your child as much as possible from the turmoil, or at least give her 50% of healthy parenting time?

I turn these thoughts over in my head for you, but it's really for me too....

FG - I think you are at the crux of everything. For me it was a PA. My XW knew that. She knew once I found out, all bets are off. She now sees her kids twice a month.

I also think that moment of clarity is different for everyone. I can tell you I was willing to ride the wave for a while but I did start to question why. Again my circumstances may have been a little crazier. For a long time it was for my family. But after a while I started to question what kind of family we had living the way we were and I started to ask what future would look better, with her or without her.

She also really started putting her kids so far down in her priorities I really lost any kind of attraction. How could i love someone who had so little time for her kids?

That was me.

Mules