Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 4)

[ForGump]

Sounds to me like that friendship (your bf and W) was in a bit of an ethical gray area, but I think when divorce starts to tear apart marriages, families and friendships, that kind of hushed talk is inevitable. I think as long as it hasn't clearly crossed into something nefarious, I'd let it go.

Yes, exhaustion. It still hurts whenever I think about losing my W to someone else but I feel so hollowed out from having thought about it for so long. Albac likes to say gutted. I feel gutted and hollowed and the insides all burned out, nothing left inside to suffer and wretch, just dead, just hollow.

Your sig says "03.03.15 Not attracted to you." Mine's roughly the same. Our only chance for reconciliation, I think, is for our respective wives to be able to just imagine being attracted to us. Unlikely to happen, but if it were to happen, it's not going to happen by having more of the same interactions.