The Fight For Self III

[PacLove]

Hey CT1118,

Didn't want to hi-jack Albac's thread so thought I'd reply to a post you made there here, on your thread... I was really intrigued by your post on how W vs. H's interact with their AP's. But was even more intrigued by your comments around exposure...

Lastly and again, women want to protect their reputation. Which helps explain why the WW in an A will not tell the world about it, only to those BFF's who will support such and action. It is also why professionals recommend the LBS not exposing the A to friends/family or confronting the OM publicly - b/c this will shatter the WW's reputation and if you ever want her back, destroying her reputation will be the worst way to approach getting her to come home. No man ever suffered a stained reputation from an A for very long, women however are called to question their entire lives for one.

I can totally see this - but was wondering on what basis you have come across this? I've gone back and forth on the exposure thing for the last 6 months and have read many websites in favor of it. I haven't exposed but have shared with close friends - so I'm sure that will make R difficult later on (but W currently doesn't know they know, so it would be up for me at some point to come clean about it during R - if it happens)

It also explains why she keeps pretending to the outside world everything is normal whereas I've been more open about our separation when people keep asking me where W is.

It's interesting if I read your post about Jealousy:

But women tend to be directly jealous of the other women. One of a woman's most respected treasure is her dignity.

It may seem like the logical answer here is for us to "date/move on" or try and get the OM to find someone else thereby making W Jealous... if only it were that easy!