The Woman is Pure Evil

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One question I was asked by an employee once was this: What is the difference between VENTING and NEGATIVITY. I thought about it for a few days, and here's what I came up with:

VENTING is when the adversity you are facing temporarily exceeds your ability to cope. Finding yourself in the red zone you need to blow off some steam to a friend or outlet. But then, after cooling down, you look at your situation, take accountability, and ultimately do better in the future. You think about new ways to look at things, process it, and mentally prepare so next time this stimulus occurs you won't boil over again. You recognize that YOU are the thing that needs to change, and you make those changes.

NEGATIVITY starts the same, when the adversity you are facing temporarily exceeds your ability to cope, and blowing off steam to a friend or outlet. But then it shifts, and instead of holding yourself accountable, you go on to blame the world around us. You conclude that the world and people in it are the problem, and that there is no way you can not be upset or angry or negative as long as your environment and the people around remain unchanged. This leads to frustration with our inability to control things around us, and a repetitive cycle where we get upset about the same things again and again without growth or relief.

This helps me hold myself accountable. Everyone boils over sometimes. But at what point do we recognize that we only control ourselves and that we are responsible for doing so?

In regards to the comparison to welfare, that is a great example. It does stink to see the system misused, and there is definitely opportunity for improvements and reform. It helps me to remember that for me, personally, I would rather live in a world that has provisions in place to prevent people from living in destitute, even if that means I have to settle for lower speed internet, than to live in a world where there is no system in place, and the people that are dealt tough hands in life are ground up mercilessly.

Appreciate your kind words RDS. I resonate with so much of what you say. The fact that I can express your thoughts so clearly simply means I've felt so much of the same, the only difference is that I've been sorting through this for longer. It's good to be able to talk about it for sure, going over it again and again in our minds isn't spinning our wheels as long as we are doing so with the intention of constructing attitudes and narratives that ultimately allow us to be our best selves and find some peace of mind.

Zeus!

You are on fire today with wisdoms and thoughts that must be pondered and applied.
Just had to give ya a virtual high 5 for the explanation of venting and negativity.
I've been looking for a simple and concise thought for that and I look no more because you have provided.

Thank you brother. I appreciate it.
RDS, good stuff to discuss and explore and so long as you can set your own terms for acceptance and move forward, you will arrive at a place that our friend Zeus has.

Good stuff today.