But I don't see her interactions with Eagle as a bad thing. If Eagle can handle it.
To me that was the breaking point of cake eating...if the LBS couldn't handle the interactions.
Is she having a good time with other people and not Eagle? Yes. Is she getting something from her interactions with Eagle on her terms? Yes.
BUT
Eagle can get something out of these interactions. He can plant the seeds of doubt if he is smart and careful...and Eagle? Shuts TFU with the snarky comments when he does talk with her.
She could have called the front desk to have a wake up call. instead she asked Eagle? Now I refuse to go into her head and try to mind read a total stranger...especially one who is in MLC crazy land...so no mind reading there. But other options easier on both of them and she asked for this one?
Take advantage of it.
I would have, I'd like to think, called her and been funny. Maybe done it in a french accent...something.
Eagle, yeah your in a bad sitch, you have opportunities to show her, that yes, you don't want this, but your strong and are going to be fine and your happiness is not dependant on her. It's a game that most certainly isn't a game, because in the end, that is exactly what we want you to be. And that person...that is the person that has the best chance of reconciling with a stronger marriage.
So...I'm hesitant to say...cake eating, throw down some boundaries dude.
Because boundaries...that's a hard line. It has to be otherwise you have no teeth, and your boundaries are meaningless.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
