I have to agree with wonder, I think our spouses do have the idea that we will "always" be there. So, what to do about that? I have no immediate ideas. It seems like a very thin line to walk. After all, we want them to know we want the marriage, but in knowing that, do they think this can go on forever?
Soooooooo confusing!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.