I read your thread last night and just don't know what to say or what advice to give.
You have over the past few months given me such insight and wisdom. Allowing me to see another perspective and notice the things I had missed.
I wish I had the answers to give you. But I guess really, we all have the answers ourselves. It's just a matter of finding them within us and letting that be our guide.
I know there are so many times that I focus so much on my XH and our R that I forget to look at me. I have a friend who is also DBing and notice that he does that too. I suggested that for every thought he has about his W to have two about himself. Think about the things that are important to him and the things that he needs to change. Really dig and find him.
Everything starts with us. Its all right there inside, but far too often we cover it up and are not truthful with ourselves. Maybe we think it is easier that way. And it probably is, but it is always less successful.
OK, now I think I"M rambling...
Not sure what message I'm trying to give here, just that it all comes from the inside.
Your a wonderful person KAW. Hang in there and step back and look at the situation with beginners eyes, from the inside.
