Something else my therapist said was every once in a while, maybe instigate a non-S conversation. So, I just asked "How's your day going." That petered out really quickly, lasting a couple texts so I just let it die rather than forcing conversation. Actually, when I asked she responded with "are you ok?" a couple times. She also sent me a text meant for someone else and said "oops wrong friend lol." Yuck.
I know this well RSG. My W also shuts down when I try to engage her on non-D related things. Even a simple hello or goodbye is usually met w/ silence.
Best to continue being a lighthouse. Show her that you are fine, regardless of what she does, and mean it. You're really good at that and have been since I've been here.
Ginger says it well and I think this is spot on...
Originally Posted By: Ginger1
Best way to handle this? Stop doing things for reaction. Do things for you. let whatever comes naturally come naturally. Don't worry about her lack of response or over response. Well, you can think about it, because I know you will, we all do, but don't try to alter it.
Just do your thing.
I keep reminding myself that I didn't get to this point overnight and it won't fix itself overnight. that realization seems to help immensely in waiting out these lulls and downtimes.
Keep being your confident self RSG. It's gotten you good returns in the past and I've no doubt it will in the future too!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
