I got the "I only have one life" saying and I guess W did not think this was the life she is supposed to have. Your W is very lucky, though neither of you can see this now, to have your unconditional love. W also gave me a comment about "soulmates" and I realize all this is about her justification of her actions. Many people would give a great deal to have a comfortable marriage, a good husband and three amazing children. W once said, "I wish I could be one of those people that a good family and a comfortable marriage was enough. and maybe I'll figure out that it is." Guess she figured out something else.
