The Woman is Pure Evil

[RDS]

My point was really more about RDS's attitude towards his W's employment. If I can feel his resentment over a few words on the Internet, then I'm sure his W could feel it before she left.

Actually darknes, when she finally got a job in January I was happy and I tried to convey my happiness to her. Of course we were barely on speaking terms so I don't think she listened to me. I thought she was finally pulling her weight to help get us out of debt, even if the income was small.

I was very bitter during the last few years of her not having a job and I will tell you why.

When I retired out of the Air Force I took a job that required extensive travel and very long hours. The pay was very good so I did it. I would be gone months at a time. But what made that part awesome was my wife would travel to see me all the time. We had wonderful times in NYC, Santa Fe, Las Vegas, Phoenix, and many other places. What I didn't know was she was drowning us in debt. When I finally discovered it is when our M started slowly going downhill. I started to really resent her, but I loved her deeply so I allowed her to not work in the stressful jobs and even when she stopped working because of health reasons (her excuse) I carried on, but my resentment grew on a daily basis. She didn't even take care of the house. It was like she was parasite. She took and took and gave nothing back.

My anger toward her job came after she left me. She has used her not working for four years and her low paying job as reasons she can't get better work and she needs my support and the BS legal system accommodated her with open arms. Not only did my W ruin my financial stability during our M, the judicial system is twisting the screws on my financial life and my W is literally laughing all the way to the bank. I sat there dumbfounded when the judge was delivering her order. I really thought I was in a wacko universe. I couldn't understand how a system would reward her for putting us in tens of thousands of dollars in debt, stop working in a high paying career field, and eventually quit working altogether, and somehow it was my fault.

If she had to take of herself totally there is no doubt in my mind she could easily get a job that pays her what she is getting from me and what she is making now. In fact, I would be surprised if she couldn't get much more than that, but there is no incentive to do that. It's like the people on unemployment. As long as the government kept extending the benefits the longer people stayed unemployed.

However; my W does not know I hold her job in low regards. Pettiness and anger will not improve my situation so I try to remain upbeat around her. I do want my W back. There is no denying it. But to be honest, I would be lying if finances were not part of the reasons I want to stay together. It's a small reason, but it is a reason.