Need advice... Got contacted today by a recruiter for a fairly prestigious company. So want to tell W about it. Partially to get her advice and partially to impress her.
The downside is I'm hesitant to approach a new job right now with my sich. My current employer has been more than fair with me through this life transition and moving jobs would take a toll on my ability to be there for D.
PacLove - I faced this exact issue. Pre BD1 i was looking for new challenges. On BD1 I was rocked but still kept at it but was worried how much I'd be able to cope with the additional stress. I actually was very close to an offer (I believe) just before BD2. W was unhappy about the risks of me changing jobs and passive-agressive pushed against it. After BD2 I decided that my MR needed my whole attention and then dropped the search. About 3 months ago though something dropped into my lap and I followed up on it - still waiting to hear back.
Just like you, I thought that W would be excited for me and keen on the new role. More money, better quality of life, better benefits. She was so wrapped up in herself that even though she tried (I think) to be happy "for me" she didn't have any focus on it at all.
So - don't follow up on the role for your W. Do it for you but first think hard about if you are in a healthy enough place to give it your focus. I worry about that a lot myself.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
