Quote: I do have to ask though KAW, why do you keep snooping? I can only assume that w didn't hand you these letters and cell phone bills and if she did leave them out in the open for you to find well then perhaps she's screaming out for you to put your foot down and stand up for what you believe in vocally. Your actions cleary show her that your love and commitment to her are real but perhaps your turning your cheek to her blatant disrespect of you is sending another message.
Oh boy don't you know how to open a can of worms?! Just kidding, I've always liked your approach and your points are well taken.
This could be a long one too!...
Ultimately, CAW is a huge confrontation avoider. To be honest, I can't imagine just how many times she has wanted to tell me she wants out, but can't bring herself to take the first step, so she would lead off with a one liner (ie, "my life sucks") in hopes I would take the bait and start prying and give her an opening to let it slip out. This is how the bombs were delivered and I've gotten pretty good at recognizing it. So in DBing fashion, I would no longer take the bait. If she was going to confront me about wanting to leave, she was going to have to do it without my help. I had eluded to this several times around this time last year, when Jethro felt I should get into some direct talks with her. I still have no doubt that if I approach her directly, she would had crested the hurdle and moved on. That is not what I wanted and this is one of those choices I am struggling with now.
... but I still didn't know for sure if it was just depression or OM was back that lead her to act this way. Snooping confirmed it. This is also when she started to journal blatantly in my presence and yes I snooped to understand where her mind is (and why I can seem to state with such seemingly certainty what her what her drama is) ... and then I continued to snoop to monitor the frequency of contact and that is when I started noticing how A seemed to be very onesided along with her journal entries. Then I made the presumption that once CAW concluded that OM was not interested in taking their R in the direction she was hoping to, that she will see the futility in it and "come to her senses" and if that were to happen, then I felt there was still a good chance she recommit to the M. So I continued to snoop looking for any evidence that OM is recipricating CAW's feelings for him, for if I found proof of that than I would know CAW would leave. To my shame this is how I came across D10 journal entry, but I still have not found a shred of evidence that OM is serious about spending a future together with CAW ... and yes, I been hoping by now that CAW would lose interest.
... and maybe she is, which is why the current change in her behavior ... then again maybe not. I guess I need to stick it out a little while longer to be sure...
Maybe I am just a sap (btw, like the lyrics you posted), that is blinded by his own faith that he can still obtain what he wants...
Chorus: Someday love will find you Break those chains that bind you How we touched and went our seperate ways If he ever hurts you True love won't desert you You know I still love you