AmyTX - I'm sorry you have found yourself here. You'll get lots of great advice. The core thing is to focus on yourself and D13. H is on his own journey and you don't want to go along for that ride.
I'm sure the vets will chime shortly with more specific advice.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells