Wow ... responses already! LL, you have been a good friend over the years, I should have expected you to be the first to respond.
... and before I could finish, you have already beatin me to the punch ...
After reading over time more and more sitches where S comes back 100% after a seperation has me doubting a lot lately, if I have taken the wrong direction by looking the other way while giving her time to figure it out on her own. I'm constantly churning if I could take Matilda's approach. After hearing about hoping's H coming back, I began wondering if I just cause this to take even longer by not encouraging her to leave. I'm even getting embarrassed to say this has been going on for over two years now.
Quote: ...but how long might that take?
I wish I knew some answers to any of this!
I've been accredited by many here over time to have impart wisdom from my post to others. Sadly, I don't feel all that wise, when I can't seem to figure out the really important answers.
DDB posted:
Quote: Question? What do you think has kept W from proceeding with D?
Fear. Fear of not knowing where her happiness truly lies. She believes that this M can be a good one, but feels she would be settling and missing out on her on something better. She seems to realize there is quite a bit of risk to go after her fantasy, but doesn't want to let it go because she believes its her once in a lifetime chance at "true" love / happiness.
My DBing only seems to go so far when compared to that.
, I should have expected you to be the first to respond. 
