Your thread is about you, i.e., whether you are having a good day or a bad day, it's about you. This is your safe place to post what is on your mind, bounce things off of us and ultimately find a way to move forward w/your life.
You sound like you keep very busy, but you will need to take some time out to do things for you. Don't get too caught up in the day to day stuff that you can't carve out just a wee bit of time to do something special for yourself. Your posting tells me that you are learning to balance things and that's good.
Psst! No one is perfect and there is not one perfect marriage out there. We all have flaws and you've begun to work on yours. Patience is something that we all have to learn because we are all fixers and want things done as quickly as possible, but the crisis isn't one of those things that we can fix for them. They have to do it themselves. Yes, we want to fix them and the relationship, but for now, we can only control ourselves. So, dig deeper for patience, learn all you can about MLC/Depression and then dig deeper again for more patience. It's not going to end any time soon. Give her plenty of space and time.
You are right where you need to be at this time. Keep posting!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
