MLC vs Midlife Reboot

[ciluzen]

Thanks, Bright. I feel better today. I did go up to the vacation home once this summer with a friend and enjoyed the day. Problem is, I believe he is up there every weekend using it as his "home" and I haven't been able to go during the week due to school and now, work. I've considered bringing up usage dates at mediation. But in reality, he bought that house (literally) with Bubbles. Bad feelings obviously involved in seeing her stuff there. I really did the majority of fix-it work on it while he has been very diligent about keeping up with the yard work. None of the things that I know needed to be fixed had been done when I was there last. I would feel the need to work on it. I'm probably better off thinking of it as gone. I just need to get over it all...and yes, that will take time.

I'm not going to do anything til after mediation, but I'm wondering after this latest Instagram issue if I should burn bridges? I can't ask everyone caught in the middle to not post pictures of their wonderful weekends or time spent at the v-house. I feel horrible that I brought it up to my D once after she was there and did the same. A few of the office ladies who I do things with have posted pics of the view with just the dock in the picture and I was fine, but if I see his boat or Bubbles' boat I get that punched in the gut feeling. I've considered just putting up a notice on FB telling people that if they are local I will be deleting them from my FB because they have my phone number and can contact me any time if they want to know what's up (and vice versa). Then leaving it up for a few weeks and then following through. I no longer value those people who can't take the time to check in on me or call on their own without me initiating a call. It would just revert back to what I intended it to be...a means to share life with my friends and family that are out of area. I would still keep my business page and Instagram for art purposes, though.

This whole thing takes up too much thought and time. Even when I try to not have it do so! It just pops in in weird ways and intrudes into my thoughts. Blehhhh.