Still alive, still need guidance.

[Tyler12]

I never truly expected W to come visit the boys during the week. And tho she told me she had hoped to today there wasn't time as she was off work late.

I haven't brought up the topic with her at all, it has always been her that initiates convo when calling the boys.

Tonight W brought up changing around the schedule of who has the boys when again and I immediately was waiting for some change that wouldn't be good for me and the boys time together. It ended up her asking if we could switch the weeks we alternate because of the daycare she has them in. There is a set of twins the same age as S1 that also alternate weeks there. If they are on the same schedule the adult to child ratio isn't proper. So they asked if it could change. And I have no problem switching it as long as my time isn't affected.

So that then made me realize that there would have to be a 2 week period with one of us to change the schedule and to my surprise she asked if I would be ok having them for the extra week! She even offered to pay the child care cost for that week.

Now maybe my head is clouded from the positive attitude she has shown me since she decided to end it with OM and it is possible she has something on the back burner, I just don't feel it like I usually do when she is up to something.

That brings me to the icing on the cake. Since she couldn't make it and her schedule looks full for the rest of the week. And seeing as I will have the boys next week too she asked if I was ok with her coming to visit the boys Saturday morning and spending the night to leave sometime Sunday...

I agreed however I am apprehensive about this. Not that she misses the boys and wants to see them. I get that. What if she wants to share a bed? Do I agree? ( I will not offer as there is other bed/ rooms she can stay in) After the boys go to bed, do we chit chat and try to have fun?

I am on call for work this weekend, do I try to get someone to cover it so I am around more? Do I plan little outings, like bike rides or a picnic?

Or do I go about my life as if she isn't even here, let her see the boys and stay away as much as possible?

I told her that I wouldn't tell the boys, as I haven't yet because I don't want them disappointed if she doesn't come, she said there will it be a change of plans she will come safurday. And said it very matter of factly like she does when her mind is made up.

It is really hard not to have expectations as communication between us has been cold and to the point from when she left until a month or so ago when I noticed a little change in attitude sprinkled in with the usual argument and anger. Which I want to add has shifted off of me and towards the town "I drug her to" to live.

This is so different that I am confused whether she is coming around or if she is just seeking to be friends for the boys sake. She has gone weeks without them before and never suggested coming here to visit. Since January she has been here once to my knowledge and that was to watch S3's tee ball game.

I feel like I need some guidance here or direction to a thread that is similar, with a wayward poking their head back around.