How do I change the relationship dynamics at this point in time or is that a long term thing. If I start to address the issues of or relationship now it will just push her farther away? All I am focused on at this point is me because that is what I can control. I am making myself better and have already made some great strides. As miserable as I have been the last month, lately because of changes in how I address my emotions I have found myself to be happier than I have in a long time, if only for brief periods of time. I have been using the 180 technique with my emotions (not towards W but just in everyday life). If there is a situation that I am uncomfortable in, I am doing the exact opposite of what I normally would have done. I am taking it on! And so far it feels great!