My one really big mistake in all this. The day I found out about the A it was 3 in the afternoon. I was such a train wreck that I went immediately to we are divorcing. I think that was my W hope. For whatever reason, I couldn't stand not telling the kids. We sat them down and told them that night that we were not getting along any longer and were going to divorce. Ugggg, so stupid....Now that I have slowed down with everything, I realize what a huge mistake this was. On two occasions my wife has said "we are confusing the kids". We were still sleeping in the same room for several nights and then I moved into the guest room because it was "confusing the kids". They no nothing of the A and never will.
