The Woman is Pure Evil

[Zues126]

He decided to give his WAW the gift of pursuing her passions and dreams.

I understand that. And I'm not saying that that is the wrong thing to have done.

My point is more that it wasn't really a "gift" if you're turning around and putting down the choices that she made

I was also upset with my ex for making a long series of choices that I'm sure led to an overall earning much lower than what was possible. But in hindsight that anger was misplaced. I agreed to the path; it wasn't fair to continue to be upset about the pay checks years later when I knew what was coming.

Just a thought.

A man gives his wife the ability to not having to work for a decade, or to work in a casual manner of her choosing that she enjoys. That is his choice. That was the gift. They share a love and a marriage, and he continues to provide that gift.

After she decides she doesn't want to live with him but demands the continuation of payments, it is no longer a gift. It is court ordered indentured servitude. He no longer has the choice, or he could face jail time, lost access to his children, and other horrifying consequences.

Could he have seen this coming? Potentially. There are many organizations trying to educate men about the injustice in the family courts, the divorce epidemic, and advising them that marriage is a bad risk in today's day and age. But young men are idealistic and go all in, pouring their hearts and souls into trying to please their wives, many of whom shed them like dead weight because they can have their cake and eat it too.

Listen. I am not a member of these men's groups. I am not grouping all women together, suggesting marriage is a trap to be avoided, or anything like that. But it's not because I don't get where they're coming from or didn't agree with some of their assessments. The problem I had was that those groups didn't offer solutions, and came to only negative conclusions. The women on this forum prove that there are many, many, many incredible females out there that have the character of a saint and still put value in men, families, and good morals. They aren't the problem. They aren't the enemy. We are all on one team, and this is impacting all of us. It's not like they aren't being affected by men's mistrust of them, or that men don't make up a large segment of the walk away spouses, or that men aren't betraying trusts in record numbers. And even the women that do these things are impacted negatively as they aren't finding deep abiding fulfillment down that road.

You're right about not letting anger cloud your life...but when you live in a broken world, I think healthy anger can be motivation for leading change. If you think back to the many injustices in our world, from racism, to sexism, to many other things, anger was pivotal in change. Of course blacks should be angry at racist police. Of course women should be angry at sexist corporations. And I think men should be angry about the way family law is practiced, and the way they allow women to abuse the system in many cases. But then, once you do what you can about it, it's time to go back to taking the pieces left behind, building what you can in the imperfect world we live in, and being grateful for what we have which is still an awful lot.