Mombear: Husband moving out thread #2

[Mombear]

Thanks, Rose. I agree that the commitment level changes a lot once kids are in the picture. Just like I was the world's best mom before I had kids, I always said that if there were infidelity in a marriage, it would be a deal breaker and I'd be out.

I do feel like marriage is forever, and barring emotional or physical abuse or some other major life changing event, a couple owes it to themselves and their children to try to keep the marriage and home in tact.

For what it is worth, my husband did indicate he plans to return to therapy with me this evening. I'm still not entirely sure what it means - I imagine we will talk about formal efforts to reconcile and work towards repairing things. I'll keep everyone posted.

The part that I really struggle with is his having a separate apartment. He did this without my knowledge, signed a 1 year lease, and is paying rent on a place - basically has an escape plan. It is just so hurtful that he did that, and also to me, makes it really difficult for me to trust that he is committed to working on things while he has one foot outside the marriage already. maybe I need to just not think about it that way.