Confused on What to Do 2

[Eagle11]

Glad you kept your mouth shut.
Sounds like she might be fishing for a compliment from you, I forget is that one of her complaints about the past?

Jack,
One of her complaints was that I didn't compliment her enough on her looks. Whenever I did compliment her she wouldn't take it seriously because she doesn't have much self esteem. I guess I could have went for the compliment in this situation, but I honestly didn't know if I should so went with nothing. I am unsure how to give her compliments right now, because I don't know how she will react.

I know she really doesn't want anything to do with me

The way you describe your weekends and that fact that she talks with you...sort of makes that untrue.

I guess I didn't really look at it like that. I guess I should stop trying to figure her out. It's a losing battle. My mind is all over the place with her. Your right though, she could shut me out completely, but she hasn't. She just texted me to let me know she got to her work destination ok and wrote her back hoping her meetings go ok. She didn't have to do that. I know she said she wants to friendly for our kids, but she has had conversations that were even friendly when they were nowhere around.

OMG...

Eagle,

with hindsight...

"If you can't say something nice STFU!" I think thats what she said or something to that effect.

Practice things you are going to say. I mean it practice, say them outloud to yourself. Have a PLAN of how you are going to respond instead of letting your instinct take over, because your instinct wants to remind her with little barbs that you are hurting and this suckss. AND yes it suckss (haha censor!).
But you are going to show her that you are making the best of
a bad situation with grace and dignity.

I actually do practice things to say to her all the time. If people could see me walking around my house talking to myself they would think I'm nuts. Her comment caught me off guard as I never expected it. It totally came out of the blue, the conversation went from flirting guys to I somehow act like everything is ok. I didn't respond in anger, but I know it was a stupid thing to say.