Albac - 7 months in. Life goes on.

[mulesqb]

even though I think my journey is somewhat over

Don't be so sure.

I don't think she was crying because she cares for me I think she was crying because she feels bad for what she has done to me.

Here's the thing. You really don't know why she was crying. It could have been an act. To the best of your ability stop trying to figure out what's going on in her head.

I validated as hard as it was and even at the point where all is lost I still evaluate every encounter and everything I say and do on weather it will have a positive effect or negative.

I don't know about validating at this point. I remember being in this spot and people telling me to validate. In hindsight I have to be honest, it didn't feel right to validate. Do you feel the same way? Does it feel right?? I think you have done enough validating at this point. Someone back in the day gave me a great short comeback.."I'm sorry you feel that way". And move on.

I was furious and even talking to her about OM and their relationship and meeting my D2 made me want to smash everything I could see I kept it together and stayed calm.

Don't ever let her drag you down. You are so above that. Strength and Honor.

I agree totally but I would do anything for her and she walked away and got involved with OM in less then 3 months.

And this very rarely ever works out.

As for my D2 and other man, in my W's eyes and as much as it rips me apart and I hate it so much I half understand her way of thinking. She said that it is at a point where she either introduces him to my D2 or she ends their relationship. She said that if she waits any longer and they get further down the road before he meets her and it doesn't work it will make things harder for her to cut him off.

So she is putting herself in front of her D2. Typical WS behavior. This is ridiculous thinking. Who gives a rat's a$$ how difficult it is for her to cut him off, poor thing...sorry I couldn't help myself. Ultimately you can't tell her what to do but I would definitely be pointing out that this is about D2 and what is best for her and her development, not mommy.

I validated said I trust her decisions. I said very firm I hope you know what you are doing and please do not hurt our D2.

ok, Albac here is where I was hoping you would read it back to yourself. I think we all know you don't trust her decisions. She doesn't make good ones. Moving forward this is an area where you need to take a harder stand. You're a good man and this may be outside your comfort zone but it will be good for you for a lot of reasons.

She has no idea about reality she said " I hope that when you find a new partner we can all be friends and get along together" I didn't even respond to that.
I said I have no interest in meeting the OM. She said that when I find a new partner she will want to meet her. Crazy

Again it's amazing how she thinks this is all about her. I think you should verbalize that you have no interest in meeting OM. And you have no interest in being their friend group.

I am broken but I'm working my way back to who I want to be.

Keep this mindset. Albac, you are a good man. You will get through this no matter the ultimate outcome. Really get serious about working on yourself. And not to look better for her (that's just a nice fringe benefit), but rather so you feel great about who you are, the way you conduct yourself, the great father that you are and the person you continue to evolve into. You can handle this.

Strength and Honor.

Mules