If you aren't sure about what you want in the way of a home or the location, don't rush into buying something that you will regret purchasing in the next six months. Take your time looking around. If you would like to move to another state, maybe it's time to sit your xh down and have a talk w/him to see if he would have a serious problem w/you doing that. You won't know until you talk to him.
As for well meaning friends, nip those conversations about the NG in the bud. I'm in agreement w/what kml posted, as well as the other posters about this particular situation. This man, as Sotto, posted, jumped ship and right into a new R and possibly never even blinked a second time. Ginger, you deserve far better than this man.
I hope that you and your D have a "Happy Birthday" celebration that will be the best one yet! Enjoy the day and take plenty of photos.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
