Where am I now

[Sotto]

Hi Mia, I understand the anger, truly I do. However, I would love to see more of a balance in your postings. At the moment, they are 90% venting and very little about you taking responsibility for yourself and moving forwards, seeking happiness, peace and forgiveness.

There is a theme of HE did this and it MAKES me ..... Whether it's shorts, or dinners or whatever. And if we post to gently point that out, you seem to gloss over that with - yes I know I should....BUT he....

So, here's the thing - he doesn't make you do anything. You get to be responsible for you. I could sit here and post back - yeah, he's such a moron, I can't believe he forgot the shorts...and that bland dinner...yikes, what an idiot! What does that do for you if I post back in that vein? Really have a think about that.

You may be interested in the drama triangle - where we choose to sit on that triangle and what it does for us. I found that helped me a great deal.

When you're out having lunch with friends in two, five years time, what kind of convos do you want to be having? The - oh he's such a jerk, listen to what he did now - or - I did X and Y and he and I get along okay etc..

That journey starts with small steps now my friend. I know you might feel challenged and maybe cross by my posting - but if I didn't feel it was important I wouldn't say it.

Hope you have a better day and enjoy the September sunshine xx