I’m re-reading Lou’s post too. Lou, thanks for sharing this. I can probably apply this to my situation with H as well. Especially about them not expecting the feelings to come back. My H left to have a new life. He said so, “there was a phase of my life before you, then there was a phase with you, and now it is going to be a phase after you”. These words stung badly at that time. It’s like I was some kind of peace of furniture that needed to be replaced. Fast forward to today… I don’t think he found that other life. And he is not completely free from his previous life. Time will show if he is brave enough to make any moves one way or another.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state