[BrightFuture]

Hey, Georgiabelle, thanks for stopping by and for the words of encouragement.

Thanks, Gwen! I will keep shining on!

Linda, it’s great to “see” you here! I rarely venture to other forums lately, but something brought me to Surviving The Bid D. And there you were! It is so bizarre that your xh keeps texting and e-mailing you while M to RT, and they even stopped by your house. You are right, there seems to be no changes in him, except he wants to keep you closer.

I actually do see some changes in my H, just not sure if they are real. I think he doesn’t actually need me to take care of this, as he seems to be very capable of doing thing on his own. It seems to me that he wants me to take care of things as a way to do a temperature check and make sure I’m still here. He is also very proactive on the things I ask him to do.

He re-appeared a few weeks after asking me about the car rental. He asked me to check the PO box for the business check (one of his Invoices) and he informed me that he shipped a battery for the leaf blower (that he has at the condo) to my address. I politely replied that I would keep an eye on both.

At about the same time I sent him an e-mail with a few things: notified him that I paid that Toll way bill that came to my house, so he could record it in the company books, sent him a letter regarding the business from the State inquiring about some info about the business, and asking to cancel the second set of credit cards that were sent for Costco account. At the end, I told him that I was going to the Vacation home for Labor Day weekend and asked him if there was any issue with that. I also sent him a text letting him know that I sent an e-mail (sometimes he doesn’t download his e-mails for days.) I was amazed at how fast he responded, LOL. I think it was same day, or maybe next, can’t remember now. He took care of all the things, asked me if there was anything else that needed to be taken care of, thanked me for paying the toll road bill and told me that there was no problem with me staying at the condo.

Then there were a few more text exchanges after that, following up on all that “business”. And then again, a question about the Condo mortgage website. He told me that it was not working, and I had to send him a correct link (that mortgage company is so unreliable…)

I also sent him a text asking him to confirm his address where I needed to mail some “important” mail to him. I was waiting for him to ask me what kind of “important” mail and was ready with the answer: “Jury Duty letter and a Playboy”, hahaha. He didn’t ask… Darn it…

I did go to the vacation home for Labor Day weekend and I got the keys to my condo! I signed an agreement with a rental company, so my condo is now in a rental pool. I also had my neighbors from here staying at my condo and they liked it! I blocked the dates when I think I will need to stay in my new condo, since I figured H will be in our other condo. Now I will always have a place to stay over there whether H is there or not. My mutual friends over there have been helping me a lot with whatever needs to be done for the new condo. This is where all this ordeal with my old car that sold to then for half a price has been really paying off. They are great friends!

The things are looking up for me!

I have a feeling, just like mleigh mentioned in her post about her H, that my H is actually jealous that I’ve been moving on with my life quite nicely and getting things I want. Maybe “jealous” is not a right word in this case, but I can’t think of how to call this. H has not congratulated me or even acknowledged me on my new car and the condo purchase, even though the topic about the car came up in the text exchange when I informed him that I canceled my old XM radio because I have a built-in radio in my new car. This is so not like him. I always thought that he would express a genuine happiness about things like that. He would congratulate anybody else. According to my mutual male friend, H is a very nice guy and is always happy for someone’s success. I guess my mutual friends would be scratching his head about this, just like about the lipstick, LOL.

So, this is kind of a new territory for me, with my new condo. It was so scary at some point to take that risk, when I have nobody else, but myself, to rely on. But, I think I made the right decision. I was worried that people, and especially people at the vacation home would judge me for setting up things this way – when I would still stay at our joint condo and rent out my condo. I already said that I will share the profits on the rental with H on these days. I think everyone is taking it good for now. Even my mutual male friend stopped insisting that I need to keep all stuff from our joint condo in my new condo now. I think things are settling down. And even that crazy woman from the vacation home, H’s “best” friends was not in my face recently. I think she lost an interest, because I don’t feed any drama she was probably hopping for. Even my mutual female friend told me that there is some kind of tension in that friendship between my H and that crowd. Oh well, I kind of predicted that it would happen at some point, after all the excitement wears off. She is not exactly an OW, but I guess there is similar kind of addiction.

Oh year! Forgot to mention that I did a lot of minor “repairs” in my house. I ordered and replaced broken magnets on the wood shatters, broken stopper on a sliding window, painted the dish washer racks with new enamel to cover the rust, took care of some yard work, etc. I am very proud of myself, LOL!