Hiya! I am Wonka and I am a reformed badass former MLCer. What you post here about W screams MLC to me like bright neon pink lights in a deserted area at night.
I would suggest (and urge) you to move your thread over the MLC forum where you can get the necessary support of like-minded LBS dealing with a MLCer.
For now, it is essential--CRITICAL---to drop the whole "dating" notion you have (or trying to pursue) and leave W completely alone. She's one hot mess right now and 'dating' you isn't going to help her in this journey at all.
FWIW, I was a fairly young MLCer myself....being hit with a MLC at age 32. One does not need to be over 50+ to be hit by the runaway MLC train.
I hope you would seriously consider this suggestion.