Just working the process, but wondering when......

[Coconut]

cbtdad,

would you say that she knows you want more physical touch and sex? If the answer is yes you have told her (I know you have) I would recommend not bringing it up for awhile. In your text, you brought up sexless marriage like a weapon, and that's not gonna help her feel it. I fully understand the frustration of just wanting them to "Really" understand your desire, and the feeling that if you just tell them one more time they will get it, but I imagine that every time you bring it up it pushes her further away. Maybe next time, play a little hard to get when she suggests it.

I would back off of mentioning it, she knows you want it, let her do it because she wants, not because you keep bringing it up. Cuddle, be playful, rub her while in bed, then back off..