I agree w/Sotto. Your h was trying to connect w/you the only way he knew how, i.e., wine and dinner. You have to remember that he's "challenged" right now w/his own issues and as a teenager/young adult (stage) he's trying to impress you w/the things he knows that you enjoy.
He does sense that you've pulled away and he's back pedaling to find that one link that will keep him tied to you. He sees the changes that you are making and he knows that you are slowly dropping the rope more and more each and every time he's around you. He doesn't know how to deal w/the new you.
As for seeing other cases like yours, I'm sure that there were others that are in the "vault" of the forum. I'll have to think about your question for a while, as we have hundreds walk the path.
For now, stay the course.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
