Mombear: Husband moving out thread #2

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What would "kick him out to the curb" mean for you, practically speaking? You would tell him to leave? What if he doesn't? File for D?

You've been at this for at least 10 months (since you suspected EA 11/15). That's a long time, and only you can decide how much is enough.

But I also believe that figuring out what it is that YOU want and sticking to it, isn't necessarily mutually exclusive with continuing to fight for your marriage. You can decide independently, based on your own values and principles, what is best, and work on that. That might mean you kick your H out to the curb. That might mean you "let him" stay.

Not to say that it's easy once you've decided. I keep fighting to do what I think is right, and to feel good about it, but I have to renew the fight every day, some times every hour, and it doesn't always feel good. But so far I feel like I could stand proud in front of my kids, and some day I hope they'll know I did all I could to do what's right.