I'm having a hard time understanding what to do here. I am trying to detach and get a life of my own and I think I am doing resonably well with that right now. However, one of my W's biggest complaints about me is that I haven't been there for her. She thinks I didn't ask her enough questions or try to engage her in conversations. She thinks I was self centered and only cared about myself. Some of this I agree with. Anyway, I have been trying to be more attentive when she talks to me. I have been trying to get to know her better by asking questions about her day, her past, etc. Yesterday, she started talking to me about some of the classes she took in college. I didn't ask her about it, but she just started telling me like she wanted me know her better. Almost like she was making some sort of effort. I might be reading too much into this, but she has told me that I don't really know her and she never talked about her past but in the last few weeks she has told me stuff that she has never brought up before (Both serious things and not so serious). I honestly have no idea what is going on in her mind and I probably shouldn't try to figure it out.
It's a hard tight rope to balance one...
I would say that you take what you can, right up to the point where you are sacrificing yourself for it...
When you recognize that you are getting sucked in, then you walk away...
And then there is always ...
She is openly seeing OM, yet you are still there for her to meet the emotional needs that her OM isn't giving to her...
