yes the other side of taking the ring off or dating is the impact it has on my D10 - right now she sees me as the stable Dad and Husband - I'm showing her what commitment is and how to not give up.
This sounds so sweet, honorable, steadfast, and such a wonderful father.....to want to sacrifice this for his little girl.
Well, I am calling it b.s. You are the one who is wanting the security and commitment. You are using your child as your cover.
The other view of that picture you are creating, is showing D10 that once she gets M, she will be able to run around, leave her home and family, and have an affair......free of any consequences.....and her H will hold down the fort, take care of her kids, while he waits/hopes for her to go back home.
So, continue to be a stable, loving dad who gives her a home. But don't use her to cover your own fear and weaknesses.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
