I have an IC in addition to our MC. I think you SHOULD do both. Its very clear that us LBS's have issues that we need to be talking to someone about and that someone probably should be our MC and S. The things we are struggling with are valid emotions but we probably don't need to be telling our W's that we can barely stand to look at them because all it does is remind us of the pain they inflicted. I don't know if we will ever get over that pain. Sometimes it feels like I won't. But the advice is that we WILL eventually get through it.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
