Quote: She said "You don't have to go overboard... you don't have to do ALL my work for me (it'd be nice, but...)..."
Tim,
I think your response when she said that should be "Hon, you're not feeling well, so I want to make things a little easier for you so you can get more rest and get well faster, that is all."
Remember that your Ws LL is AOS. So if you do all "her" work for her, how then is she going to be able to "speak" her LL to you that is AOS? She enjoys doing these tasks for you because thats how she shows her love to you and will feel quite lost if she finds less opportunities to do so.
IMHO you are going "slightly, just slightly overboard" with your enthusiasm to try out this new experiment. By all means, do continue doing AOS for her but make them really special ones and in special circumstances. If you overdo it, it may lose its impact and W will get confused. However you should continue to help her around the house whenever you notice that she has too much on her hands but don't "takeover".
