Learning, growing and believing....

[BrightFuture]

Mleigh, I’m happy to read that you and your S are going great! I think I can relate to what you are going through, even though my H is not in contact with me every day and don’t see him. But, he contacts me enough times to make sure that I’m still here.

I have come to realize he can't let go of me, but he doesn't want me either. It's so twisted. Now, this is mind reading, but I also sense he envies my happiness. I think he sees it is real, and may be what draws him? IDK, just a thought.

This is what I’ve been thinking regarding my H too. Or, in my case, it could be that he would want to get back with me, but just doesn’t know how. Just the speculation on my part though.

People think our situation is so strange, especially how friendly we are, being in the current situation, but they all agree, whatever works, it's better than the ugliness it can be

- Yes, people sometimes raise their eye brows when they hear about my sitch, however, not all them agree with what I’m doing. They are trying to tell me that I should file for D and separate everything with H. I just listen and do what I think is best for me. Your friendship with your H benefits you and you son, so I think you are also doing what is best for you and your son.

I agree with job:

Yes, mleigh, this is a very typical transition. What I'm seeing w/you is that you are finally dropping the rope and accepting him for who he is right now. When you do this long enough, you'll see that he will begin to gravitate towards you, i.e., like a moth to a candle. He senses things are different w/you these days and that's a good thing.

Mleigh, it looks like you are dropping the rope slowly, but surely, and your H sees and senses that. Unfortunately he might not be ready to come out of his crisis, hence not ready to fully reconnect with you. And this dance could continue for some time. It is exhausting, but it looks like you are getting a handle on the whole situation, while also feeling good about yourself and the direction you are going to. Take care!