The "do I want her" question is one that I've been struggling with myself for some time now. After BD1 and especially after BD2 I was forced to take a good hard look at W and our past MR. Was there joy? Yes. Was there sorrow? Not a lot. I think that the best word that described it was "acceptable". Looking back there was a lot about W and our MR that I just accepted as part of the package. Some of it was pretty bad and had been for many years.
I presume Surfer that you have done the same hard thinking.
One thing that strikes me over and over again in this small pool of people we have here is how unlike it would seem the rest of the world when BD hits we feel that we need to continue to fight for our MR and our spouse and that in most of the cases I see here that our spouse doesn't demand an immediate D. I've been composing a post in my head for a week or so that I may let out someday about us - the proud, the few, the manipulated, the stupid - jk
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
- jk