The first sign is her ending her affair. Then agreeing to absolutely no contact with OM, forever. Second sign is her show of true remorse for her behavior and the pain she caused you. Look for humbleness when she apologizes to you. Her attitude usually tells the most. Observe to see if her attitude lines up with her words and behavior. Third, is her desire to do whatever it takes to repair the MR and work for its success.
Those are the signs that count! As long as there is a third party, forget touching. General acts of kindness? Are you talking about love languages? Look Roe, that stuff will not work with a wayward. LL's work when you have a faithful, logical woman. Your W is neither! Forget these soft soap approaches. She may take advantage, but it won't cause her to desire you for her H. And.........you can forget about her showing you LL signs as long as she stays wayward, b/c she has lost the attraction. A WW may temp check her H by touching, but it's not genuine.
The M can be saved, Roe. But it won't be the old methods you used to "make up" after a fight. When you can come to terms with the fact she has to see a man standing tall and not compromising his self-respect in order to have her.........then you may be ready to do what you need to do.
Let me ask you something. Let's pretend she was giving you small touches b/c it was a sign of her LL. How would you respond?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
