Thanks Sandi, I my head has cleared a bit now after having it reel from what happened Wednesday. The way she came to me and seemingly needed me made me feel good. The way she ran to me and hugged me and the couple days after was talkative and friendly.

I never did pursue, I listened and validated, said nothing about us or trying to R. All I really told her or asked if her was to be somewhere safe and for the boys sake not to get sucked back in.

I haven't heard from W since Friday morning. So the reality is nothing has seemingly changed. There was never any mention of her moving back home by either of us. As far I understand she will find her own place in the same area she has been.

I hope for her and the boys sake that she tries to figure her life out on her own for awhile. Learn to find her happiness that she so desperately needed on her own, tho it wouldn't surprise me if she has someone new soon or goes back to OM as I have never known her to stay alone for long.

So yes Sandi. Nothing really changes. And no I have not/ will not pursue. Everyone around here always said the OP isn't the reason that a M can't be worked on and I knew it, until I lived it and I had that couple days where I thought to myself, ok. OM is out of the way, I just need to be that light house for her and she will come back because the problem is gone, Well that call to come home or to R never came and it may never.

I had felt so good about all I had done to keep myself moving on. And like usual I felt I was way ahead of the curve, until a road bump happens and makes me realize that though I have made progress. There is still a very very long way to go

The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.