I think you are right Gump so many people (myself included) are not equiped to have a healthy relationship and I think a large chunk of people that are in successful relationships are just waiting for a BD because one of the two is constantly compromising. I see it everywhere I look now.
Google compromise and accommodating in relationships.
Before M we hear how a good MR is all about compromising. When a couple compromises, he gives up a little of his needs, and she gives up a little of her needs.
The problem we are seeing in a lot of M's today, is when one spouse changes from compromising into accommodating. One spouse loses/gives up all their needs in order for the other spouse to be satisfied. When this becomes the every day pattern, passive behavior develops.......then the result is loss of attraction from the other spouse.
Compromising, nor accommodation, is the answer for a successful MR. Collaboration is when both spouses work together to find an agreeable solution to the problem.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
