Taking my first sip of the water

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So things have been surprisingly good at home W and I are getting along very well not having relationship conversations is defiantly the way to go forward yes there will be a time when this happens but not now

So a question,does anone know how much outside influence has in a partners decision to remai separated

I feel that my W would not come back to the relationship because her friends who know may think she is weak

I think that our eldest daughter has in the past seen how unhappy my wife was and she may want us to remain separated so would my W think that this is another factor in remaining on,the path to separation

What makes someone reinvest into something that has left them feeling hurt and resentful for years

Probably overthinking again just when things are going better I just want to push the process

I on the other hand have been feeling much more emotionally stable and I realise there is much work to be done

W and I did have a chat because things have been hard at home the children have been pushing boundaries and we spoke about this we have to set up some house rules and my W shared with me that one of the things that she sees has not changed is me not thinking for myself and taking the initiative she feels everything is left for her to do so I believe that it is important for me to address this as she has made this very clear to me

Thank you guys