Words of affirmation: 1. Good morning, dear. Your breath is not nearly as bad as usual. 2. I love those pants! They're tight, but not so tight as to show off your cellulite. 3. Your penmanship on the shopping list is improving, dear. I can almost read it. 4. Did I tell you how much I appreciate the fact that you do the ironing? Isn't it comforting to know you're really good at something...anything?
You know, AFFIRM her. Tell her how great she is, how lovely, how smart, how sexy, how frugal, etc. I do this all the time.
Hairdog, who's so lucky to have a wife who farts and blames it on the dogs so convincingly.
So happy to hear of your baby steps. Read your post in the Super Success Stories. Its great. Your Ws LL is so obviously AOS. Thats why she "speaks" it so loudly and clearly.
Tim said: W: I would have brought it for you. Me: I know... W: Well, why didn't you just wait? Me: I don't like to make you bring it... that's "mean"
I was half-joking, but ONLY half. I DO believe this... I am NOT an AOS-oriented person, and not only does it NOT do anything for me on the love-scale, but it makes me uncomfortable as well. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not ALWAYS as anal about these things, and yes, there ARE times when I allow her to do these things, but I always feel like she resents it. Like, "I do all the housework, and you also want me to do THIS for you?" Probably MY hangup...
Yeah, I think its just your hangup, next time let W bring the tea for you, enjoy it and thank her for it to show your appreaciation for her Act of Love. I read in another message board about a wife who felt so rejected by her H who would not let her do anything for him. Maybe your Ws like that.
Continue to do your own brand of special, innovative "AOS" and keep us updated on your progress.
Only one kind of "action" last night... HOCKEY!! Montreal over Boston... almost! Soooo.... close..... No point watching the rest of the series now... so maybe that's a good thing...
Hmmm.... tonight might be interesting! When W picked me up from work, she said she had pretty much bundled up all the recycling stuff (a job I HATE!). Now, at lunchtime, she said she was working at getting caught up on her ironing, so I said, "So you're all caught up with the ironing?" And she said yup, plus rattled off a number of OTHER things she had accomplished, like vacuuming and stuff. Then she said (of course) "Now I'm really tired." At this very moment, the BBQ is heating up for my specialty - hamburgers (only I'm, like WORLD-famous in my household for these), so we'll be eating early. Hmm... wonder what adventures await this evening? It'll be interesting to see if she takes a bath... stay tuned!
Quote: Since when did 'I think I'll take a bath' translate into 'lets have sex later'!!!
I'm sure I've posted this before, but a refresher never hurts... W always needs to have a bath before sex... "to relax and get in the mood". It's long been one of my main complaints, because it means she's always the initiator, and it also makes things very ritualized, but at the moment, since I've been sex-starved for so long, I'm not going to be too fussy about that. If we DO ml tonight, it'll be the second time in less than 2 weeks, so that'll be a BIG WIN. Anyway, suffice to say the bath is W's sex signal. I'm not getting myself TOO worked up, I'm just hoping, because we've been able to sit down early, I've had a couple of small AOS opportunities (which I did NOT waste), so I'm guardedly hopeful. We'll see. I am going to be lovingly accepting of anything she is able to offer me this evening. I need to build up a level of trust. Wish me luck!
Quote: ... I'm not getting myself TOO worked up, I'm just hoping...
Well, I knew early on that it might not turn out like I'd hoped, and I wasn't too far off. I am disappointed, but I won't let it show, because it really wasn't in the cards from the beginning. Her sore throat came back during the evening, and by bedtime she wasn't in the mood for anything but sleep. She figures it must be some kind of allergy, because she was fine during the day. She's probably right. No biggie... there'll be other nights. It's supposed to warm up this weekend, so maybe...
No point watching the rest of the series now... so maybe that's a good thing... 
