Out of in house S - On My Own (11)

[vise82]

Hey

Thank you for the input rich4j and jruss.

At this point the custody is already agreed upon in the seperation agreement. We put nothing in the agreement about dating and new parteners and whe they can spend time with the kids. Somthing I am wishing I put in.

Also with the dirt bike worry, I canot do anything about it. Her time is her time with the kids, Unless she leaves them longer then 4 hours with someone I cant say a thing.

She has done that with her brother and did not tell me anything about it. I told her she has to tell me. She brushed it off saying they go every year basicly telling me she did not have to tell me because of that. I find that disrespectful of the agreement and me.

So now that she has asked me to send her the class list to her. I send it and then I ask is that her way of telling me she is having a class birthday party even though she asked me, I said no and she is going ahead with on anyway?

I also said that those type of parties cost alot of money that I dont have right now and I dont see how she can have that type of money.

Right now I am temped to continue with this discusion as she emailled me back saying that yes she is going ahead with the party with out me and thanked me for the list.

I am so mad right now.

So she asks me and was going to diregard what I said anyway. she clearly just wanted me to help pay for it. Kids dont need to invite the whole class for a birthday party.

She says S4 has been asking all summer for a party and she is going to give him one.

I want to reply that since when does the kid tell the parent what to do?

Also tonight I see on my kids Ipad that some reason her recipt for the app tinder was CC to S4 IPads mail box. Is this normal? I dont have ipad phone so not sure if this was done by her or did apple do this?

It was dated two months ago. 27.99 a month for the upgraded package charged to her CC.

Ok So I want to send another email to her asking if she met this OM on tinder. Then ask her if she is on tinder. Then tell her I am going to divorce her as from what she told me she needed the seperation to figure things out and had no interest in dating other people. One month after we both moved out she gets the app. I will not be in an open MR.


But I know the answer to all this. Show her by actions. try to keep dark. Focous on me and my kids. I will talk to my S4 about the party I have planned for him his brother and me. I will tell him that is the best I can do at this time, and we are going to have fun (taking him to build a bear).

I am seeing my lawyer about putting in the offer for the house I am renting now. When that is all done and if I have extra money I am going to look at finishing the paper work to divorce my very WW. I just need to keep that frame of mind right now to help me move forward. Will i do that? I dont know.

I keep telling myself I deserve better, I can do better.Things for me and my boys are going to get better.

Had a great day with the boys today, did some fishing and we all caught fish, was all of ours fist time catching a fish.

Then tonight I put S7 to bed and I lay ther next to him for a bit in his bed just looking at his face, and good flash backs of me doing that with W show up in my mind. Its amazing how the two years of all the bad stuff that happened between us and the good stuff finds a way through like the bad stuff never happend.