Hey RSG, just wanted to let you know I'm still here watching (and learning now) your sitch, just don't often find that much needs to be said... Your working the process, and handling yourself well.
I don't like the position your wife put you in with the family pic, but you gotta pick your battles and that wouldn't of been a good place to have one, but something inside me says that you should let her know to never do that again, that when you say no to something you will not tolerate her manipulating you. But, probably not a big deal if you don't feel like it's worth it, I just don't like when my w would do things like that.
I appreciate it! It feels like I'm wavering and just feeling my way but I guess it's just time for patience really.
As for the family picture, and other little moments. I did give her a glare 3 or 4 times, and they were noticed. When I put S in the car after it was over, I talked to her about the incident where she said "just leave him." I had mentioned in passing he was cranky because he just woke up from nap, but she noted (w/o my knowledge) she had told him to wait to eat his cupcake until the other kids were served. My response was something like, ok but why couldn't you just tell me that? She apologized and said she didn't realize...
Today. Little guy's birthday!! She sent me a few pictures. He got some Starbucks bread, ate some pizza, played at an indoor bounce house and I think went to the pool. When I picked him up he was exhausted, so I just let him play on the iPad for a little bit and after I took it away he wanted to write his numbers a little. He got really cranky as he had no nap, but once settled and with some milk he went right to sleep! Some tears came out this afternoon as she sent me pictures, just angry that he couldn't enjoy his birthday with his family because his Mom is being selfish and ugly. Just a sad realization, but only a rough 5-10 minutes.
I had a little binge of Stranger Things on Netflix, I really like it! Also, before I picked up little guy I stopped by the library and got Gottman's 7 principles. I was disappointed at dropoff that W said a couple things about his day, and seemed to be in a rush to leave. As if she had her fill and was ready to Dump and Run. Sad.
I'm so proud of my little 4 year old. I can't wait to celebrate with him tomorrow.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
