Definitely fortitude! Double checked in the dictionary before I wrote it :-)
I continue catching up on reading (it seems MLC section is growing fast - what is going on this year?! Must be some bad constellations or something...) and I want to tell you that I am really happy about where you are now. Of course there will be a lot of back and forth, it's absolutely normal. I always think that if there were not it would mean that I never really loved H. I wish you that you achieve what is the best for you. No matter how things will turn out, you'll be fine! More than fine. You know what they say: time is a healer (I think there was a nice song like that, I should look it up - for "rainy days")!