Really tough part change it it's is trying to stick with DB, take a different approach to it. I mean I have to give it time and see if she is done with OM. She has to grieve for that R and then maybe there can be some communication.
I think I have to go back to the book and look at how to handle this if the A is over.
I need to keep on with my GAL, not sure if I stick with the somewhat NC that it has been.
Are you saying you would be fine with being her fall back option?
As for making adjustments in your DBing, why does the fact that OM was so mean he ran her off........affect what you were doing? You need to be very, VERY careful. The OM was not the problem in your M. It was/is her waywardness.
Neither of you need to take for granted she's moving back in with you....just b/c she tired of OM. And, especially, don't let her back and sleep in separate beds. It won't be difficult for her to manipulate her way back.
Don't act in any pursuing fashion right now.
Btw, do not mention to her how you know she'll need time to grieve for OM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
