So happy to hear of your baby steps. Read your post in the Super Success Stories. Its great. Your Ws LL is so obviously AOS. Thats why she "speaks" it so loudly and clearly.
Tim said: W: I would have brought it for you. Me: I know... W: Well, why didn't you just wait? Me: I don't like to make you bring it... that's "mean"
I was half-joking, but ONLY half. I DO believe this... I am NOT an AOS-oriented person, and not only does it NOT do anything for me on the love-scale, but it makes me uncomfortable as well. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not ALWAYS as anal about these things, and yes, there ARE times when I allow her to do these things, but I always feel like she resents it. Like, "I do all the housework, and you also want me to do THIS for you?" Probably MY hangup...
Yeah, I think its just your hangup, next time let W bring the tea for you, enjoy it and thank her for it to show your appreaciation for her Act of Love. I read in another message board about a wife who felt so rejected by her H who would not let her do anything for him. Maybe your Ws like that.
Continue to do your own brand of special, innovative "AOS" and keep us updated on your progress.
